This Is How...

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“The past does not haunt us. We haunt the past. We allow our minds to focus in that direction. We open memories and examine them. We reexperience emotions we felt during the painful events we experienced because we are recalling them in as much detail as we can.” 

“The truth is that nobody is owed an apology for anything. Apologies are lovely when they happen. But they change nothing. They do not reverse actions or correct damage. They are merely nice to hear.” 

“Are you one of those people who says on a first date, 'I'm really not in a hurry to meet somebody, I figure if it happens, it happens'? Because those are the most desperate people of all. I'm just saying this so that if you are this person, you aren't hiding it from anybody. There is no shame in being hungry for another person. There is no shame in wanting very much to share your life with somebody.” 

“Maybe you feel pressure to be positive because so many people rely on your good, fake-positive energy? If that's the case, screw everybody else. You're not a bottle of Valium.”

“I don't believe in the concept of a soul mate. Because we are all unique, but we're also simply too similar.”  

“When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me."

That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world.” 

“Imperfections are attractive when their owners are happy with them.”  

“Being an unhappy person does not mean you must be sad or dark. You can be interested instead of happy. You can be fascinated instead of happy.” 

“But feelings, no matter how strong or “ugly,” are not a part of who you are. They are the radio stations your mind listens to if you don’t give it something better to do.”  

“Truth is not an opinion. It’s a force like gravity. It’s the most valuable substance known to man.”